Do you take care of others before you take care of yourself? Do prioritize your family’s needs before yours? Do you focus on receiving love from others — more than loving yourself?
What if you were able to bring your attention back to yourself LOVINGLY? And find the love or fulfillment you’re seeking, within YOU?
It’s easier said than done... as you may have discovered.
Even after years of meditating, going to therapy, and participating in personal growth workshops, you may continue to seek love and approval from others.
Very few people have learned how to truly love themselves.
Deep down, you may even feel unlovable. Inadequate. Ashamed. Or feel you need to improve in some way before you can be happy (or before others will love you).
All of these challenges can be traced back to the parts of you that haven’t fully healed — and must heal to create the inner wholeness that you know is possible.
Most people have never seen this level of self-love as healthy examples of self-care and self-love were never modeled by our family, parents or caregivers.
And in our youthful omnipotence, we may have assumed WE were to blame for the, neglect, trauma or emotional abandonment we experienced from well-meaning adults — creating core feelings of shame and unworthiness, and influencing our relationships, creativity and work in the world.
Without healthy attachments, and in an effort to avoid the pain, we formed other attachments — addictions to food, alcohol or drugs, relationships or sex, even media and technology.
Finding a steady stream of unconditional love from the INSIDE can, thus, seem like an impossible goal. Even if you are a dedicated seeker, you can find yourself struggling with a sense of incompleteness — of not having found the wholeness you’re searching for.
That’s because there is an aspect of your growth and healing that is rarely — if ever — addressed by current approaches: The ability to truly love different parts of yourself and to create a secure inner bond between them.
The lack of this deep inner bonding is at the core of a remarkable number of challenges you might face — ranging from relationship struggles to addiction, anxiety and depression.
Underneath, there is almost always a place where you are rejecting or abandoning yourself, without even realizing it.
If you want to experience true freedom, a sense of worthiness simply for being YOU, and authentic relationships that don’t require you give up you for love and approval (which only re-wounds you and puts undue pressure on others!) it’s time to discover true self-love.
Inner Bonding is a proven 6-step process that empowers you to meet your own needs for love and approval. By forming healthy attachments with the parts of you that have felt neglected, ignored or wounded, no longer feel compelled to look outside yourself for relief or healing. You cease “act outing” through various addictions, to cope with the pain of unmet needs or unexpressed emotions.
You finally meet the WHOLE you with unconditional love. You feel worthy of good things. Your life gets bigger and more exciting — and your relationships become more loving and harmonious.
Co-created by renowned psychologist and bestselling author of Do I Have To Give Up Me to Be Loved By You?, Dr. Margaret Paul, Inner Bonding begins with compassionate, deep inquiry to access and heal the wounded parts of yourself.
It also requires willingness (as well as curiosity!) to learn from your most vulnerable and painful emotions about your unmet needs — and then meet them as a healthy, present and loving parent would.
The techniques of Inner Bonding are remarkably effective with virtually anyone, and have positively affected tens of thousands of worldwide — including GRAMMY award-winning artist Alanis Morissette, a champion of the Inner Bonding Process.
During the course, Finally, Truly Loving Yourself, you’ll discover the core insights and practices of this groundbreaking approach to unconditional self-love and a deeper connection with the Divine...
Inner bonding really nurtures and fosters the relationship between self and spirit. Personally, it has helped every relationship that I have. I’m so grateful to Margaret for bringing inner bonding to people in the generous, nurturing way that she has.
— Alanis Morissette, Singer-songwriter
Psychology has shown that different levels of secure attachment are essential for a developing child. Without these healthy attachments, we may feel lost, rejected or unworthy, maybe all of our lives...
With or without trauma, virtually all of us reach adulthood with parts of us feeling disregarded, judged or outright abandoned.
Now, though, you can apply the 6-step methodology of Inner Bonding to establish clear, loving connections between these different aspects of your personality as well as your higher Self.
You will be taken through these six steps in a precise way — giving you not only an experience of unconditional love in the present, but the means to keep working with different aspects of yourself in the future.
You’ll discover how to dialogue with your feelings, pain, anxiety, self-hatred and fear, as well as get to the core of self-abandonment and shame. You’ll begin connecting to higher guidance around your beliefs, and take loving actions that reinforce positive shifts.
And you’ll discover how to establish new brain pathways for truly loving yourself.
Move into the present moment and focus within, tuning into your feelings — the physical sensations within the body. Choose to be mindful of and pay attention to all distressing feelings rather than protect against them with substance and process addictions. Make a conscious decision that you WANT to take responsibility for your feelings.
Invite the compassionate presence of Spirit into your heart to help you learn what you may be doing or thinking that may be causing your pain, or what may be happening externally that needs your attention. When you are in the intent to learn you are a loving adult. When you are in the intent to protect and avoid you are operating from your shame-based ego wounded self, or child-adult. In Step Two, you welcome and embrace all your feelings with compassion.
Discover the thoughts/false beliefs from your wounded self that may be causing your shame, fear and pain; release anger and pain in appropriate ways; learn about the past that created the false beliefs; nurture your wounded self; explore what may be happening with a person or event that is causing the core feelings of loneliness, heartache, heartbreak, helplessness or grief; explore your core Self and what brings you joy.
Ask your spiritual Guidance (whatever that is for you): What is the truth about the thoughts/false beliefs you may have uncovered in Step Three? and What is the loving behavior toward your Inner Child in this situation? What is in your highest good? What is kind to yourself? Open and allow the answers to come through you in words, pictures or feelings. The answers may not come immediately, but if you have a sincere desire to learn, they will come.
Tell yourself the truth and take the loving action that came through from your guidance in Step Four; put God/Spirit into action. Consciously move into gratitude for your guidance that is always here for you.
Check in to see if your pain, anger and shame are getting healed. If not, go back through the steps until you discover the truth and actions that bring you peace, joy and a deep sense of intrinsic worth. These Steps will come alive for you as you learn and practice the Inner Bonding process.
Course sessions are on Thursdays at 4:00pm Pacific.
In this 7-week program, Dr. Margaret Paul will teach you how to transform your life through a self-healing process that creates a shift into true self-love and establishes a daily personal connection and dialogue with a loving source of higher guidance.
Each weekly teaching, inquiry and practice session will build harmoniously upon the next, so you’ll develop a complete understanding of the practices, tools and principles you’ll need to truly love yourself and share your love with others.
In this first session, we’ll explore how, at the deepest level, only two paths in life are available to us: “the path of fear” and “the path of courage and love.” Underlying the choice between these two paths is the moment-by-moment choice of one of two intentions.
In this session, we’ll go deeply into your survival mechanism — the part of you that got you through difficult times as you were growing up. You will become aware of the role of modeling in the formation of your wounded self — and that now needs to heal and transform into a creative ally.
In this module, you’ll:
In this module, you will discover the beauty of who you really are, and begin to develop your loving adult self, who can take loving action on your own and others’ behalf. Through visualization, you will connect with your personal source of spiritual guidance, which will become the role model for loving yourself and seeing who you really are.
You’ll receive a mindfulness process for connecting with your physical and emotional feelings, moving from your head into your body. You’ll discover how to be fully present in this moment, and find the place within you that wants to evolve from your feelings rather than avoid them.
In this module, you’ll
In this session we go deeply into the intent to learn, rather than the intent to control. We’ll explore various means of opening to learning and what to do if anger, blame and resentment are in the way of opening your heart to learning and becoming a loving adult.
You’ll discover a process for dialoguing with your core self and wounded self and your spiritual guidance. This session will engage you in a deep internal dialogue process with your feelings and belief system — and uncover false beliefs that may be causing your pain.
In this module, you’ll:
In this module you’ll explore various kinds of loving actions — actions for yourself alone, and actions in relationships with others. Taking loving action can tap into deep fears, and these will be explored in precise depth. Then, you will learn how to evaluate whether or not the action you took was loving to you.
In addition to Dr. Margaret’s transformational 7-week virtual course, you’ll receive these powerful training sessions with the world’s leading visionaries and teachers. These bonus sessions are being offered to further complement what you’ll learn in the course — and take your understanding and practice to an even deeper level.
The true key to finding (and deepening) soulmate love has almost nothing to do with your looks, age or level of success. Nor is it about becoming “irresistible,” learning the skills of seduction, or repairing your flaws in order to become more attractive to your mate. Finding (and deepening) soulmate love comes from discovering and celebrating your most authentic self — the parts of you Ken calls your Core Gifts. In this inspiring dialogue, Ken Page will share in-depth, how to uncover and access your Core Gifts as you discover (and deepen) the soulmate love you’re yearning for. Margaret Paul, PhD and Ken Page each share their most essential insights about the inner healing that leads us to healthy, soul-filling love.
Ken Page, LCSW is a renowned psychotherapist, popular Psychology Today blogger, Huffington Post blogger and author of the bestselling book Deeper Dating: How to Drop the Games of Seduction and Discover the Power of Intimacy. He has been featured in O, The Oprah Magazine, Oprah.com, The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, Cosmopolitan, Fox News, WPIX-TV News The Advocate, The Chicago Tribune and more. Page’s work has been read by millions, and he has led hundreds of workshops on intimacy and spirituality for thousands of participants of all ages, backgrounds, sexual orientations and gender identities.
In this compelling audio dialogue, Margaret and Miranda will be discussing their individual ways of helping people access spiritual guidance. This is where their work comes together, so this is the best topic for each of us to be able help others understand how to access the help that is always here for them.
Miranda Macpherson is a contemporary spiritual teacher, Interfaith Minister and author of the spiritual guidebook Boundless Love. Miranda has been teaching internationally since 1995 and is known for her depth of presence, clarity, and refined capacity to guide people into direct experience of the sacred. Miranda is founder of the ground-breaking OneSpirit Interfaith Foundation in London, and today, leads the Awakening Love and Wisdom sangha in Marin and Sonoma counties. She teaches retreats in the United States and in Europe, and is working on a new book, The Way of Grace. She lives in the San Francisco Bay Area with her husband Bob Duchmann.
This special audio package consists of four 1-hour sessions with Dr. Margaret Paul answering questions from those engaged in the work of Inner Bonding. Margaret goes into considerable depth exploring many aspects of the journey, the challenges that arise and how to overcome them. These in-depth sessions will be powerful additions to your healing process!
In this special workbook that is used in Dr. Margaret’s Inner Bonding workshops, you’ll receive charts, exercises and other helpful sheets, to support you in your learning and healing process throughout the course journey.
The course was absolutely inspiring and transformative for me. Before taking it I had a good understanding of how Inner bonding works. Now it’s a tool that I use daily. I can help myself with it, I can heal my life with Inner Bonding. Thank you for this gift, Dr Margaret Paul.
— Kati Gabor, Ottawa, Canada
This course was incredibly valuable in more ways than one. What was covered in these few weeks would take over a year in therapy. Here you get an immediate way to key into something that will truly help the individual to heal in a safe way and continue to grow and work on themselves in the process. Completely enlightening and loving! Highly recommend to anyone looking for answers and a deeper understanding of how to help themselves to live a healthier more joyful life. Thank you!
— Susan Barrett, New York, New York
This was an absolutely excellent course. I received a lot of information and experiential opportunities... This course completed the connection with higher guidance and gave me a very powerful way of connecting with my emotional body and being. Thank you so much! As usual, The Shift Network has delivered more than advertised.
— Dorien Bietz
Margaret Paul’s Inner Bonding is a useful process to reach the wounded hidden parts of yourself and have them heard and released to free you to the present moment and a new way to engage with the world coming from a place of love.
— Teva, Seattle, Washington
I have finally sort of “got it” now, when inner bonding, and other similar treatment modalities talk about “loving yourself.” I used to think, well yeah, I must love myself because I am constantly treated myself to massages and such. I understand now, I was nowhere near “loving my inner child.” Now that I do that, healthy adult behaviors surface much more! I think so many divorces could be prevented with this knowledge!
— Michelle Deeb, Burbank, California
What I found during the course was an increase in my ability to be truly kind to myself. With this, many of my addictive behaviors have decreased noticeably without me making any effort to control them.
— Lesley, Brattleboro, Vermont
This course has benefited me immensely in my life. It is helping me to be more compassionate with myself and with others... There are so many useful snippets that I am incorporating into my life. Margaret’s course showed me the consequences in my life and gave me the tools to try another way. Thank you, Margaret!
— Jacqueline, Johannesburg, South Africa
Margaret’s course has made me realize on a deep level how important it is to take responsibility for loving myself and to feel and allow all my feelings. Making the conscious choice to open my heart to learn, invite spirit in and love myself in every moment makes me feel more empowered, connected and alive... This course will radically transform your heart, life and happiness.
— Fredrik, Sweden
This course brought me more clarity and understanding how I abandon myself and how I can heal it. The Inner Bonding process is a valuable tool and Margaret introduced it clearly deeply and lovingly. I am very grateful having taken the course.
— Evelyn, Bali, Indonesia
I found the course very helpful and timely. The questions and answers and role-playing sessions were so applicable to my own life and situation. Dr. Margaret Paul is an incredible person and healer. I am so grateful to The Shift Network for their part in putting together and managing such an interesting and essential course. Thank you.
— Elaine, Toronto, Canada
Finally, Truly Loving Yourself not only offers some of the most advanced online teachings currently available, it also offers a thriving global community of support.
Join your fellow students and practitioners from across the world in the interactive conference calls or in our online community to support and learn from each other while you learn to transform your relationship with yourself.
This international community is also at the leading edge of a global movement of people who are committed to manifesting a better world for all beings. This emerging planetary movement is rooted in an open heart and stands for the principles of mutual support, cooperation, harmony and reverence for all of life.
Seven 90-minute Class Sessions With Dr. Margaret Paul (Pre-recorded Teachings With Live Q&A)
Experience a rare opportunity to be mentored and learn with renowned author and psychologist, Dr. Margaret Paul — from the comfort of your own home. Each class session will consist of a broadcast of Dr. Margaret’s pre-recorded lecture, guiding you to find unconditional love, presence and self-worth through Inner Bonding. Directly following the lectures, Dr. Margaret will come on live every session for 30 minutes of Q&A time, so you can have all your questions answered. Course sessions are on Thursdays at 4:00pm Pacific.
Seven Audio Recordings of Class Sessions
After each class, the audio will be available for you to download in high-quality MP3 format. You’ll never have to worry about missing a session, and you can listen anytime and anywhere — on any connected device and at your convenience.
Seven PDF Transcripts of Class Sessions
In addition to the high-quality MP3 audios, you’ll also receive the entire class transcription in PDF format after each session is completed. You can then review, print and highlight the most important insights and practices you were given.
Seven 30-minute Interactive Group Practice Sessions
With live class attendance, there will be a 30-minute optional interactive practice session directly following each class. You’ll be placed in an intimate group with several other participants on the conference call to interact, share and do additional practices to help further integrate the weekly lessons. If you’re unable to attend the calls live, the Online Community group allows you to connect with each other to find alternative times to interact.
Interactive Exercises and Questions for Each Lesson
After each lesson, you’ll have the option of completing related exercises, practicing new tools and answering questions to accelerate your learning and integrate each week’s lesson.
Our exclusive Facebook online community is the perfect place to continue your discovery process after each class. Here, you can continue the discussion about deepening practices, interact with your fellow students, and get access to additional resources to take your exploration to an even deeper level.
The Finally, Truly Loving Yourself Bonus Collection
We feel honored Dr. Margaret Paul has chosen to partner with The Shift Network to offer this exclusive online training. This is a rare opportunity to interact directly with a renowned author and psychologist whose powerful insights and pioneering work are helping us heal and awaken ourselves, our partners — and our world.
Through this powerful online format, you’ll not only save time and money on workshop costs (plus travel, accommodations and meals — which would cost thousands of dollars), you’ll be able to benefit from Dr. Margaret’s incredible teachings and exercises from the comfort of your home — at your own pace!
If you are serious about recognizing your true worth and discovering your passion and purpose in life, then you owe it to yourself, your loved ones and our world to take this one-of-a-kind training.
If you’re ready to take the next step in evolving yourself, click the register button below to reserve your space now.
Personally, it has helped every relationship that I have. I’m so grateful to Margaret for bringing Inner Bonding to people in the generous, nurturing way that she has.
— Alanis Morissette, Singer-songwriter
[Here] is a method for recreating yourself as a powerful, spiritually connected, loving adult self... a powerful method for healing relationship and family conflict, as well as for healing self-destructive and addictive behavior.
— Neale Donald Walsch, Author of Conversations with God
Would you think me crazy if I said there was a single process that could solve all the issues with which we as human beings struggle? [Inner Bonding teaches] a most loving process [that] will take you on a life-changing journey...
— Lindsay Wagner, Actress, author, humanitarian
Margaret Paul teaches the value of stepping into a new spiritual paradigm — into love and trust of self, others and God
— Jack Canfield, Co-author of The Chicken Soup for the Soul Series
Through this process I went from being my last resort to being my own best friend! I finally experienced the total goodness and light that is the essence of my being — my true self. What could be a more powerful gift? It feels good to be whole!
— Catherine Oxenberg, Actress
I have done a lot of inner child work and felt like I did not get anywhere with my inner child. This course addressed this issue and the reason why not right from the start. Margaret is so authentic, loving and clear with a gentle firmness like a good parent. I feel so much more in touch also with my authentic self and feel I got the tools to establish this relationship and therefor having much more fulfilling relationships with friends and partner. Thank you so much.
— Thea Dixon, Santa Monica, California
I enjoyed this class immensely. A few times during a session, I saw the exact circumstance where my negative patterns began. The six steps Margaret teaches is a great technique to show you where you are stuck and then how to transform this energy in a positive and loving way. She teaches that we always have to take care, love and respect ourselves first before any change can really happen. I loved this course because now I have tools to use when I am distressed that will help me to overcome this feeling. Thank you, Margaret.
— Cheri, San Diego, California
Margaret Paul is the first therapist whom I found with this format and it really works for me!! The structure, exercises, printed material and especially Margaret as a genuinely caring, sensitive, clear and direct-when-necessary real person is the best therapist I have ever found!
— Mary, Baltimore, Maryland
Learning the correct skills in depth, actual steps to take once I learn to practice every day will change my life completely, I always knew loving myself, was what was missing — I just didn’t know how to do it. Thanks — forever grateful.
— Donna Bonnick, Sydney, Australia
If you are willing and/or looking for a tool or course that will really help you see yourself in relationship to both yourself and others, this course and Margaret’s knowledge and expertise will get you there!
— Trisha G., Coral Springs, Florida
Dr. Margaret Paul is the author/co-author of several bestselling books, including Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved By You ?, Inner Bonding, Healing Your Aloneness, The Healing Your Aloneness Workbook, Do I Have To Give Up Me to Be Loved By My Kids? and Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By God? Her books have been distributed around the world and translated into 11 languages.
Margaret holds a PhD in psychology and is a relationship expert, noted public speaker, workshop leader, educator, chaplain, consultant and artist. She has appeared on many radio and TV shows, including The Oprah Show, successfully worked with thousands of individuals, couples and business people, and taught classes and seminars since 1967.
Margaret continues to work with individuals and couples, accessing spiritual guidance during these sessions, which enables her to work with people all over the world. She is passionate about helping people rapidly heal the root cause of their pain, and learn the path to joy and loving relationships.
Q: What is a virtual course?
A: It’s a great way to engage live teachings and each other from the comfort of your home! All you need is a phone line (or an equivalent voice service). If there is more than one person in your household taking the course, you will each need your own line. We use MaestroConference to make it just like an in-person event, where you can ask questions, participate in groups, and deepen your exploration of the course themes.
Please note that dialing MaestroConference from your phone is a regular toll call to California; your telephone service provider will charge you according to your existing long-distance calling plan. Other options include calling cards and discount long-distance carriers. You can also use Skype to connect to MaestroConference at no charge, and we offer a webcast which is free to use from anywhere in the world.
I have never participated before in an online course. The packaging, presentation, inclusion and Facebook postings created a wonderful, safe cocoon to participate. I haven’t seen a course so well put together ever — not in all the years of taking college classes — and I had my doubts about doing an online course. The wealth of organization and ease of learning materials and support made this fun as well.
— Claudia F., Medford, MA
Q: Can I get benefit from the course if I miss the live classes?
A: Absolutely! You can download the recordings and transcripts of all course sessions from our online media archive, so you never need to worry about missing live calls. You can also engage the full community and leaders on our private community website.
Q: Can you tell me about the Private Course Group?
A: We will have a private community group for all course participants on Facebook that will support you in making connections with others, sharing insights, engaging in discussions, completing homework assignments and exchanging information about events and other activities that can supplement your transformational journey. You’ll have the ability to share your experiences, projects and growth throughout the Course.
Q: Are there scholarships available for this Training?
A: Yes, we always make a certain percentage of spaces available for partial scholarships, giving preference to those in developing countries or doing important but underpaid work to which they can apply the training material immediately. If you would like to apply for a scholarship, please review our guidelines, which include a link to our online application form.
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