Do you tend to seek love from others instead of searching for it within yourself?
Are you taking care of others to the extent that you're neglecting your own needs?
What if you could bring your attention back to yourself and receive love from YOU, just as a loving parent provides for her child?
Your deepest healing and spiritual liberation may be rooted in your capacity to do just that...
... advocating for your needs...
... making space for you to “attach” in healthy ways...
... recognizing and accepting your feelings...
... encouraging your gifts to shine...
... and taking spiritually guided actions that make you feel truly loved.
Deep down, you may feel you’re unlovable. Inadequate. Ashamed. Or you may believe you need to improve in some way in order to be “whole” (or before others will love you).
These are simply parts of you that haven’t fully healed... yet.
If you want to experience true freedom, a sense of worthiness simply for being YOU, and authentic relationships that don’t require you to give up you for love and approval (which only re-wounds you and puts undue pressure on others!), it’s time to discover true self-love.
This aspect of growth and healing is rarely — if ever — addressed by current approaches. And yet, a lack of unconditional self-love and forming healthy attachments in childhood underlies many challenges later in life — from relationship struggles to addiction, anxiety, and depression.
Underneath, there’s almost always a place where you’re rejecting or abandoning yourself — without even realizing it.
Inner Bonding can change all of this...
This proven 6-step process empowers you to meet your own needs for love and approval. By forming healthy attachments with the parts of you that have felt neglected, ignored, or wounded, you no longer feel compelled to look outside yourself for relief or healing.
You finally meet the WHOLE you with unconditional love. You feel worthy of good things. Your life gets fuller and more exciting — and your relationships become more loving and harmonious.
Co-created by Dr. Margaret Paul, the renowned psychologist and bestselling author of Do I Have To Give Up Me to Be Loved By You?, Inner Bonding begins with compassionate, deep inquiry to access and heal the wounded parts of yourself.
It also requires willingness (as well as curiosity!) to learn from your most vulnerable and painful emotions about your unmet needs — and then meet them as a healthy, present, and loving parent would.
The techniques of Inner Bonding are remarkably effective with virtually anyone, and have positively affected tens of thousands worldwide — including GRAMMY award-winning artist Alanis Morissette, a champion of the Inner Bonding process.
During Finally, Truly Loving Yourself, you’ll discover the core insights and practices of this groundbreaking approach to unconditional self-love and a deeper connection with the Divine...
Psychology has shown that different levels of secure attachment are essential for a developing child. Without these healthy attachments, we may feel lost, rejected, or unworthy, maybe all of our lives...
With or without trauma, virtually all of us reach adulthood with parts of us feeling disregarded, judged, or outright abandoned.
Now, though, you can apply the 6-step methodology of Inner Bonding to establish clear, loving connections between these different aspects of your personality.
You’ll be taken through these six steps in a precise way — giving you not only an experience of unconditional love in the present, but the means to keep working with different aspects of yourself in the future.
You’ll discover how to dialogue with your feelings, pain, anxiety, self-hatred, and fear, as well as how to get to the core of self-abandonment and shame. You’ll begin connecting to higher guidance around your beliefs, and take loving actions that reinforce positive shifts.
And you’ll discover how to establish new brain pathways for truly loving yourself.
Move into the present moment and focus within, tuning into your feelings — the physical sensations within the body. Choose to be mindful of and pay attention to all distressing feelings rather than protect against them with substance and process addictions. Make a conscious decision that you WANT to take responsibility for your feelings.
Invite the compassionate presence of Spirit into your heart to help you learn what you may be doing or thinking that may be causing your pain, or what may be happening externally that needs your attention. When you are in the intent to learn, you are a loving adult. When you are in the intent to protect and avoid, you are operating from your shame-based ego, wounded self, or child-adult. In Step Two, you welcome and embrace all of your feelings with compassion.
Discover the thoughts and false beliefs from your wounded self that may be causing your shame, fear, and pain... release anger and pain in appropriate ways... learn about the past that created the false beliefs... nurture your wounded self... explore what may be happening with a person or event that is causing the core feelings of loneliness, heartache, heartbreak, helplessness, or grief... explore your core Self and what brings you joy.
Ask your spiritual guidance (whatever that is for you): What is the truth about the thoughts and false beliefs you may have uncovered in Step Three? What is the loving behavior toward your Inner Child in this situation? What is in your highest good? What does being kind to yourself look like? Open and allow the answers to come through you in words, pictures, or feelings. The answers may not come immediately, but if you have a sincere desire to learn, they will come.
Tell yourself the truth, and take the loving action that came through from your guidance in Step Four. Put God/Spirit into action. Consciously move into gratitude for the guidance that is always there for you.
Check in to see if your pain, anger, and shame are getting healed. If not, go back through the steps until you discover the truth and actions that bring you peace, joy, and a deep sense of intrinsic worth. These steps will come alive for you as you learn and practice the Inner Bonding process.
So you can better connect with Dr. Margaret and her teachings, all of her sessions will be live streamed on video. This video connection will be easy to use and will enhance the impact of Dr. Margaret’s teaching. Or, you can easily connect via audio only, either through the internet or on your phone.
Course sessions are on Thursdays at 4:00pm Pacific.
In this 7-week program, Dr. Margaret Paul will teach you how to transform your life through a self-healing process that creates a shift into true self-love and establishes a daily personal connection and dialogue with a loving source of higher guidance.
Each weekly teaching, inquiry, and practice session will build harmoniously upon the next so you’ll develop a complete understanding of the practices, tools, and principles you’ll need to truly love yourself and share your love with others.
In this first session, we’ll explore how, at the deepest level, only two paths in life are available to us: “the path of fear” and “the path of courage and love.” Underlying the choice between these two paths is the moment-by-moment choice of one of two intentions.
In this module, you’ll discover:
In this session, we’ll go deeply into your survival mechanism — the part of you that got you through difficult times as you were growing up. You’ll become aware of the role of modeling in the formation of your wounded self, which you can then heal and transform into a creative ally.
In this module, you’ll:
In this session, you’ll discover the beauty of who you really are, and begin to develop your loving adult self, who can take loving action on your own and others’ behalf. Through visualization, you'll connect with your personal source of spiritual guidance, which will become the role model for loving yourself and seeing who you really are.
In this module, you’ll discover:
Are you able to reconnect with your authentic Self at any given moment, especially when you feel anxious or afraid? Many of us never learned this valuable practice. The first step of Inner Bonding is being willing to become mindful of your physical and emotional feelings. Dr. Margaret will guide you to discover how to be fully present in this moment, and find the place within you that wants to evolve from your feelings rather than avoid them.
In this module, you’ll:
In this session, we'll go deeply into the intent to learn, rather than the intent to control. We’ll explore various means of opening to learning and what to do if anger, blame, and resentment are in the way of opening your heart to learning and becoming a loving adult.
In this module, you’ll:
In this session, you’ll discover a process for dialoguing with your core self, your wounded self, and your spiritual guidance. You'll engage in a deep internal dialogue process with your feelings and belief system — and uncover false beliefs that may be causing your pain.
In this module, you’ll:
In this session, you’ll explore various kinds of loving actions — actions for yourself alone, and actions in relationships with others. Taking loving action can tap into deep fears, and these will be explored in precise depth. Then, you will learn how to evaluate whether or not the action you took was loving to you.
In this module, you’ll discover:
In addition to Dr. Margaret’s transformational 7-week virtual training, you’ll receive these powerful training sessions with leading visionaries and teachers. Valued at $395, this exclusive collection is free with your registration in the course — and will take your understanding and practice to an even deeper level.
Dr. Margaret Paul and bestselling author Katherine Woodward Thomas share how the practice of Inner Bonding gives people the strength and spiritual support necessary for lovingly moving through separation or divorce.
Katherine Woodward Thomas, MA, MFT, is author of The New York Times bestseller, Conscious Uncoupling, and the national bestseller,Calling in “The One.” A licensed psychotherapist, she has taught hundreds of thousands to find greater happiness in love. Her work is devoted to discovering inspired, innovative and evolving pathways toward the creation of more wholehearted, honorable and harmonious relations.
Co-creator and co-leader of the Feminine Power transformative courses, she is creator of the Conscious Uncoupling five week program, and cohost of the Women on the Edge of Evolution teleseries. She also is lead trainer of the Certified Calling in “The One” Coaches Training Program.
Discover the two incredible secrets to attaining at-will connection with the Divine. Having at-will spiritual connection is easier than you think!
In this candid 1-hour dialogue, singer/songwriter Alanis Morissette shares how practicing the principles of Inner Bonding helped her shift her relationships with partners, producers, and herself — to become a more fully realized person, mother, and performer. Alanis also reveals that when she bonds with her own inner parents through inner conversations, she becomes more responsible and functional in all of her relationships. And, when she nurtures herself — in the same way that she cares for her own son — she thrives, as does her career.
Alanis Morissette is a singer-songwriter, guitarist, record producer, and actress. She has won 16 Juno Awards and seven Grammy Awards, and was nominated for two Golden Globe Awards. Alanis began her career in Canada, and as a teenager recorded two dance-pop albums, Alanis and Now Is the Time, under MCA Records Canada. Her first international album was the rock-influenced Jagged Little Pill, released in 1995. Jagged has sold more than 33 million units globally.
Alanis took up producing duties for her subsequent albums. She has sold more than 60 million albums worldwide. She has written articles on parenting and relationships for Huffington Post and iVillage.com.
In this podcast series — which includes three hours of content — Dr. Anita Archer asks Dr. Margaret questions that have been submitted by members of the Inner Bonding Village.
Dr. Margaret answers many questions about the importance of connection, bringing clarity to interactions, and understanding when you are controlling and when you are learning. Also covered is how to distinguish loving actions from wounded reactions in different life and relationship situations. Dr. Margaret also addresses the power and control issues that often challenge relationships, as well as the control issues that frequently emerge regarding our own feelings and needs.
You’ll receive:
This special audio package consists of four 1-hour sessions, with Dr. Margaret Paul answering questions from those engaged in the work of Inner Bonding. Margaret goes into considerable depth exploring many aspects of the journey, the challenges that arise, and how to overcome them. These in-depth sessions will be powerful additions to your healing process!
You’ll receive:
In this special workbook, which used in Dr. Margaret’s Inner Bonding workshops, you’ll receive charts, exercises, and other helpful sheets to support you in your learning and healing process throughout the course journey.
The course was absolutely inspiring and transformative for me. Before taking it I had a good understanding of how Inner bonding works. Now it’s a tool that I use daily. I can heal my life with Inner Bonding. Thank you for this gift, Dr Margaret Paul.
— Kati Gabor, Ottawa, Canada
What was covered in these few weeks would take over a year in therapy. Here you get an immediate way to key into something that will truly help the individual to heal in a safe way and continue to grow and work on themselves in the process. Completely enlightening and loving! I highly recommend it to anyone looking for answers and a deeper understanding of how to help themselves to live a healthier, more joyful life.
— Susan Barrett, New York, New York
This was an absolutely excellent course. I received a lot of information and experiential opportunities. This course completed the connection with higher guidance and gave me a very powerful way of connecting with my emotional body and being.
— Dorien Bietz
Margaret Paul’s Inner Bonding is a useful process to reach the wounded hidden parts of yourself and have them heard and released to free you to the present moment — and a new way to engage with the world coming from a place of love.
— Teva, Seattle, Washington
When Inner Bonding and other treatment modalities talk about “loving yourself,” I used to think, well yeah, I must love myself because I am constantly treating myself to massages and such. I understand now that I was nowhere near “loving my inner child.” Now that I do that, healthy adult behaviors surface much more! I think so many divorces could be prevented with this knowledge!
— Michelle Deeb, Burbank, California
What I found during the course was an increase in my ability to be truly kind to myself. With this, many of my addictive behaviors have decreased noticeably without me making any effort to control them.
— Lesley, Brattleboro, Vermont
This course has benefited me immensely in my life. It is helping me to be more compassionate with myself and with others. There are so many useful snippets that I am incorporating into my life. Margaret’s course showed me the consequences in my life and gave me the tools to try another way.
— Jacqueline, Johannesburg, South Africa
Margaret’s course has made me realize on a deep level how important it is to take responsibility for loving myself and to feel and allow all my feelings. Making the conscious choice to open my heart to learn, invite spirit in, and love myself in every moment makes me feel more empowered, connected, and alive. This course will radically transform your heart, life, and happiness.
— Fredrik, Sweden
This course brought me more clarity and understanding how I abandon myself and how I can heal it. The Inner Bonding process is a valuable tool and Margaret introduced it clearly, deeply, and lovingly. I am very grateful having taken the course.
— Evelyn, Bali, Indonesia
I found the course very helpful and timely. The questions and answers and role-playing sessions were so applicable to my own life and situation. Dr. Margaret Paul is an incredible person and healer. I am so grateful to The Shift Network for their part in putting together and managing such an interesting and essential course.
— Elaine, Toronto, Canada
Finally, Truly Loving Yourself not only offers some of the most advanced online teachings currently available, it also offers a thriving global community of support.
Join your fellow students and practitioners from across the world in the interactive conference calls or in our online community to support and learn from each other while you learn to transform your relationship with yourself.
This international community is also at the leading edge of a global movement of people who are committed to manifesting a better world for all beings. This emerging planetary movement is rooted in an open heart and stands for the principles of mutual support, cooperation, harmony, and reverence for all of life.
Seven 90-Minute Class Sessions With Dr. Margaret Paul
Experience a rare opportunity to be mentored and learn with renowned author and psychologist, Dr. Margaret Paul — from the comfort of your own home. Each class session includes a live streaming video option and guides you to find unconditional love, presence, and self-worth through Inner Bonding. Course sessions are on Thursdays at 4:00pm Pacific.
Seven Video Recordings of Class Sessions
After each class, the video will be available for you to download or stream in high-quality format. You’ll never have to worry about missing a session, and you can watch anytime and anywhere — on any connected device and at your convenience.
Seven Audio Recordings of Class Sessions
After each class, the audio will be available for you to download in high-quality MP3 format. You’ll never have to worry about missing a session, and you can listen anytime and anywhere — on any connected device and at your convenience.
Seven PDF Transcripts of Class Sessions
In addition to the high-quality videos and MP3 audios, you’ll also receive the entire class transcription in PDF format after each session is completed. You can then review, print, and highlight the most important insights and practices you were given.
Seven 30-minute Interactive Group Practice Sessions
With live class attendance, there will be a 30-minute optional interactive practice session directly following each class. You’ll be placed in an intimate group with several other participants on the conference call to interact, share, and do additional practices with to help further integrate the weekly lessons. Practice sessions are available for live attendance only, not recorded for playback. If you’re unable to attend the calls live, the online community group allows you to connect with each other and find alternative times to interact.
Interactive Exercises and Questions for Each Lesson
Between class sessions, you’ll have the option of completing related exercises, practicing new tools, and answering questions to accelerate your learning and integrate each week’s lesson.
Online Community
Our exclusive Facebook online community is the perfect place to continue your discovery process after each class. Here, you can continue the discussion about your course materials and interact with your fellow students to take your exploration to an even deeper level.
The Finally, Truly Loving Yourself Bonus Collection
We feel honored Dr. Margaret Paul has chosen to partner with The Shift Network to offer this exclusive online training. This is a rare opportunity to interact directly with a renowned author and psychologist whose powerful insights and pioneering work are helping us heal and awaken ourselves, our partners — and our world.
Through this powerful online format, you’ll not only save time and money on workshop costs (plus travel, accommodations and meals — which would cost thousands of dollars), you’ll be able to benefit from Dr. Margaret’s incredible teachings and exercises from the comfort of your home — at your own pace!
If you are serious about recognizing your true worth and discovering your passion and purpose in life, then you owe it to yourself, your loved ones, and our world to take this one-of-a-kind training.
If you’re ready to take the next step in evolving yourself, click the register button below to reserve your space now.
Your satisfaction is 100% guaranteed! If you don’t absolutely LOVE Finally, Truly Loving Yourself with Margaret Paul — or don’t feel that it meets your needs — please contact our friendly Support Team on or before February 14, 2019 and we’ll happily issue you a refund.
Inner Bonding really nurtures and fosters the relationship between self and spirit. Personally, it has helped every relationship that I have. I’m so grateful to Margaret for bringing Inner Bonding to people in the generous, nurturing way that she has.
— Alanis Morissette, Singer-songwriter
[Here] is a method for recreating yourself as a powerful, spiritually connected, loving adult self... a powerful method for healing relationship and family conflict, as well as for healing self-destructive and addictive behavior.
— Neale Donald Walsch, Author of Conversations with God
Would you think me crazy if I said there was a single process that could solve all the issues with which we as human beings struggle? [Inner Bonding teaches] a most loving process [that] will take you on a life-changing journey.
— Lindsay Wagner, Actress, author, humanitarian
Margaret Paul teaches the value of stepping into a new spiritual paradigm — into love and trust of self, others, and God
— Jack Canfield, Co-author of The Chicken Soup for the Soul Series
Through this process I went from being my last resort to being my own best friend! I finally experienced the total goodness and light that is the essence of my being — my true self. What could be a more powerful gift? It feels good to be whole!
— Catherine Oxenberg, Actress
I have done a lot of inner child work and felt like I did not get anywhere with my inner child. This course addressed this issue and the reason why not right from the start. Margaret is so authentic, loving, and clear, with a gentle firmness like a good parent. I feel so much more in touch also with my authentic self and feel I got the tools to establish this relationship and therefore have much more fulfilling relationships with friends and partner. Thank you so much.
— Thea Dixon, Santa Monica, California
I enjoyed this class immensely. A few times during a session, I saw the exact circumstance where my negative patterns began. The six steps Margaret teaches is a great technique to show you where you are stuck and then how to transform this energy in a positive and loving way. She teaches that we always have to take care, love, and respect ourselves first before any change can really happen. I loved this course because now I have tools to use when I am distressed that will help me to overcome this feeling. Thank you, Margaret.
— Cheri, San Diego, California
Margaret Paul is the first therapist whom I found with this format and it really works for me!! The structure, exercises, printed material, and especially Margaret — as a genuinely caring, sensitive, clear, and direct-when-necessary real person — is the best therapist I have ever found!
— Mary, Baltimore, Maryland
Learning the correct skills in depth, actual steps to take once I learn to practice every day, will change my life completely, I always knew loving myself was what was missing — I just didn't know how to do it. Thanks — forever grateful.
— Donna Bonnick, Sydney, Australia
If you are willing and/or looking for a tool or course that will really help you see yourself in relationship to both yourself and others, this course and Margaret's knowledge and expertise will get you there!
— Trisha G., Coral Springs, Florida
Dr. Margaret Paul is the author or co-author of several bestselling books, including Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved By You?, Inner Bonding, Healing Your Aloneness, The Healing Your Aloneness Workbook, Do I Have To Give Up Me to Be Loved By My Kids?, and Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By God? Her books have been distributed around the world and translated into 11 languages.
Margaret holds a PhD in psychology and is a relationship expert, noted public speaker, workshop leader, educator, chaplain, consultant, and artist. She has appeared on many radio and TV shows, including The Oprah Winfrey Show, successfully worked with thousands of individuals, couples, and businesspeople, and taught classes and seminars since 1967.
Margaret continues to work with individuals and couples, accessing spiritual guidance during these sessions, which enables her to work with people all over the world. She is passionate about helping people rapidly heal the root cause of their pain, and steering them onto the path to joy and loving relationships.
Q: What’s a virtual course?
A: It’s a great way to engage live and pre-recorded teachings and each other from the comfort of your home! All you need is a computer, mobile device, or telephone. If there’s more than one person in your household taking the course, you’ll each need your own connection. We use Zoom videoconferencing to make it just like an in-person event, where you can ask questions and deepen your exploration of the course themes.
There’s no additional charge for connecting to Zoom with your computer or mobile device. Please note that dialing Zoom from your telephone is a toll call; your telephone service provider will charge you according to your existing long-distance calling plan. International access numbers are available.
“I’ve never seen a course so well put together ever...”
I had never participated before in an online course. The packaging, presentation, inclusion, and Facebook postings created a wonderful, safe cocoon within which to participate. I’ve never seen a course so well put together ever — not in all the years of taking college classes — and I had my doubts about doing an online course. The wealth of organization and ease of learning materials and support made this fun as well.
— Claudia F., Medford, Massachusetts
Q: Can I get benefit from the course if I miss the live classes?
A: Absolutely! You can download the recordings and transcripts of all course sessions from our online media archive, so you never need to worry about missing live calls. You can also engage the full community and leaders on our private online community group.
Q: Can you tell me about the private online community group?
A: We’ll have a private online community group for all course participants on Facebook that will support you in making connections with others, sharing insights, engaging in discussions, and completing homework assignments that can supplement your transformational journey. You’ll have the ability to share your experiences, projects, and growth throughout the course.
Q: Are there scholarships available for this training?
A: Yes, we always make a certain percentage of spaces available for partial scholarships, giving preference to those in developing countries or doing important but underpaid work to which they can apply the training material immediately. If you’d like to apply for a scholarship, please review our guidelines, which include a link to our online application form.
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